Does Time Out Work?

Time out, it used to be a pretty popular form of discipline, but we are hearing less and less about time outs. Why is this? Does time out work?

The short answer? Yes. and No. Let me explain.

Time out, it used to be a pretty popular form of discipline, but we are hearing less and less about time outs. Why is this? Does time out work?

What is Time Out

Time out is supposed to be a brief separation between the caregiver and the child. The point of time out is to allow the child to practice self-calming skills.  Time out is when we need to quite frankly, completely ignore the child in trouble. Why is this? Because most of the time when kids misbehave it is to get attention. If a child is in time out and getting our attention still, the method of discipline does not work.

Timeouts were created based on the assumption that  kids were being raised in environments where they had plenty of “time in’s”. Which are positive, loving interactions.

Why Doesn’t Time Out Work? 

Too often times time out is not being used the way it was meant to. We spend time arguing with the child. Other children interact with the child in time out. The child whines, or cries, and moves, forcing the caregiver to interact with he child by reminding them to calm down, or go back to their time out space. This gives the child the attention they are seeking. Not the break or the time they need to learn how to calm down on their own.

In addition to the above children now are too often times reminded of the bad they do, instead of being encouraged and filled with positive reinforcements.

We Need to Try Time IN

In addition to using time outs, parents and child care providers need to practice Time In. What is this? It is when we praise the children in our lives for GOOD behavior.

Time out is really one of the only methods of discipline caregivers in a child care setting can use, yet we tend to use it ineffectively time and time again. Because of this, time outs rarely work.

For more about using time out effectively check out this post, where we discussed in depth how to effectively use time out. 

25 Fun Activities to do WITH Your Child This Summer

Summer is here and with it comes fun, time outdoors, and laughter. Preschool is one of the best ages because really, it takes very little to make them happy. The biggest thing they usually need is YOU :_

So, plan on doing some fun things with your child this summer. They cost little, and the reward is the joy in their eyes as the discover new things.

Here are 25 fun activities to do with your child this summer.

 Here are 25 fun activities to do with your child this summer. They cost little, and the reward is the joy in their eyes as the discover new things.

  1. Catch lighting bugs
  2. Wade in a creek
  3. Skip rocks
  4. Go fishing
  5. Look for worms
  6. Blow bubbles
  7. Make your own homemade bubbles
  8. Create a volcano
  9. Try geocaching
  10. Visit a state park
  11. Visit a local nature center
  12. Go camping (backyards count!)
  13. Draw with sidewalk chalk
  14. Ride bikes
  15. Plant flowers
  16. Catch an outdoor movie
  17. Make homemade popcorn
  18. Join a summer reading program
  19. Paint outside
  20. Play in a sprinkler
  21. Try out a slip and slide
  22. Make homemade popsicles
  23. Go for a picnic
  24. Stay up late and stargaze
  25. Go for a scavenger hunt

All of the items on this list cost little to nothing and will result in hours of fun. Bonus? While doing these activities with your child this summer they will be learning something, and probably won’t even realize it :)

For more great activities for summer fun check out these sites:

35 Things Your Child Needs to Know Before Kindergarten

Kindergarten is right around the corner for many of our students. One thing parents ask a lot is what exactly does their child need to know before stepping foot into that kindergarten classroom.

Here at Raising Arizona Preschool we do our best to prepare your child for Kindergarten. This comes through our emergent curriculum, play based learning and teachers who know what they are doing. However, we also believe education begins at home and parents can and should know where their child is at academically.

35 Things Your Child Needs to Know Before Kindergarten

Here are 35 things your child needs to know before Kindergarten:

  1. Bounces, kicks, throws and catches a ball
  2. Understands concepts of in/out, under/overon/offfront/back, etc.
  3. Knows by heart and recites some common nursery rhymes and songs
  4. Pretends creates and makes up songs or stories
  5. Describes characters’ actions and feelings in a story
  6.  Understands concepts of nonesome and all and more than and less than
  7. Shows interest and asks questions about objects and events observed in their environment
  8. Draws recognizable shapes and simple objects
  9. Explores with common musical instruments
  10.  Understands that people live in different parts of the worlds and have different customs and traditions
  11. Puts events of a story in order
  12. Enjoys improvising or copying musical patterns
  13. Recognizes basic traditions such as birthdays
  14.  Able to recognize and name numbers 1-10, even when they are out of order
  15. count to 20
  16. count 10 objects, pointing to each one as she counts
  17. hold a book and turn pages
  18. write her first name
  19. identify some letter sounds
  20. Interacts appropriately with adults and peers
  21. Puts puzzles together
  22.  Tries to tie own shoes
  23. Relates stories to personal experiences
  24. Uses comparison words, like “bigger,”smaller,”heavier,” etc.
  25.  Rides a tricycle
  26. Recognize her first name
  27. Recognize the letters (uppercase and lowercase) of the alphabet
  28. Identify colors in an 8-ct crayon pack
  29. Works cooperatively (listens to others, shares and takes turns)
  30.  Sort items by size, color, or shape
  31.  Tell if two words rhyme
  32. Respects the rights, property and feelings of others
  33.  Know parents full names and at least one parent’s phone numbers.
  34. Recognize and name basic shapes: square, circle, triangle, and rectangle
  35. Say or sing the alphabet

These are just some of the basic things a child should know before entering Kindergarten. The best way to prepare your child for Kindergarten is to read, read, read. Talk while they are playing, work on sorting blocks while building, count cars while “driving”.  Children learn best while moving and interacting with others. And their first and best teacher are always YOU!

 

How to Handle Fear in Preschoolers

 

Fear is a feeling of dread or anxiety.  Preschool age children have many common fears. For a preschooler fear is a real feeling of something that they think is going to happen, or something that they are unsure of. Fear can be seen in many forms at the preschool age. A child may have one or a dozen things they are afraid of. Some of these fears may include:

  • Nightmares or bad dreams
  • Being left alone
  • Being around someone new like a baby sitter or stranger
  • Loud noises
  • Flashing lights
  • Dogs or other animals
  • Unexpected events can trigger fears (a house fire may spark a fear of smoke, or a car accident may trigger a fear of riding in a vehicle)
  • Darkness

These are just a few things a child may fear. How you handle fear in preschoolers is important. There are a few key points that you need to remember.

Fear in preschoolers is a real thing. How you handle these fears is important. Here are some tips that can help .

Honesty is the best policy

Always tell your child the truth. Lying or being sneaky in order to avoid dealing with a fear is not a good idea. If your child is afraid of shots, don’t avoid telling them they may be getting one. Talk to them about it a head of time. You can tell the child something like “The doctor is coming in first, then the nurse will be in to give you a shot”. The child WILL be afraid, but they will know and understand what is going to happen to them. They will also know that they can trust you to tell them the truth. Try your best to empathize with your child. Tell them you understand that they are afraid. Acknowledging the child’s fear is important, don’t brush it off as if it doesn’t matter. To your child it is a huge deal.

Empathize

If a loud noise frightens your child, stop the noise and comfort them. By giving immediate comfort when the emotional crisis happens you are acknowledging the fear and showing your child empathy. Once your child calms down you can discuss the fear and make a plan. This is acknowledging the fear, yet being supportive while they work through it.

It is important to not make fun of the child for being afraid. What may seem silly to you is a big deal to your child. Making fun of or joking about their fears teaches them that they can’t talk to you about what is important to them. This is not something you want your child to believe. As a parent, you want to be the one your child comes to when they are scared. Empathizing with your child is a huge step in earning their trust.

Be supportive

If your child is afraid of new situations or new people then be there so they know they can trust you for help and support. Remind them that you will be nearby if they need help or get scared. If the child is afraid of doctors ask the doctor if it is okay for your child to sit on your lap during an examination. The same thing can be done at the barber shop or dentist. As a parent you are the buffer between your child and the outside world. By being supportive you are letting the child know that you acknowledge their fears, but you are also comforting them and supporting them while they work through the fear. This support is essential for a child and helps to reduce their anxiety and insecurity.

Give them a security object

If your child has a blankey or a doll that they love, let them carry it with them if they are facing a new or difficult situation. To a parent this security object may seem unimportant but to your child it is a piece of home. It is comforting and makes them feel safe. The security object can give them confidence and comfort when they need it. This is especially true if the child is facing a fear and you are not going to be with them.

Play and educate!

Using play to help counter a fear is a great idea! If your child is afraid of doctors play around with toy shots, or act out what is going to happen at the doctor’s office. You can act out sirens for police cars and fire trucks, you can help put on band aids for your “boo boo’s”, make loud barking noises like you are a dog, all of these are ways a child can work through fear by playing.

You can also educate your child on their fears through play. If your child is afraid of bees, get a bunch of books on bees from the library and read them to your child. Talk about what bees do, and why they are flying around outdoors.  You can do the same thing with fire trucks, or other vehicles that make loud noises. Talk about the jobs of community helpers, and what those sirens mean. If a barking dog scares your child explain why the dog barks (after they are calmed down) and what the dog may be trying to communicate. Educating your child on their fears can help them the next time they are in a situation with that fear. They can think back and remember that you told them WHY the siren is loud, or WHY the dog may be barking, and that can help them overcome the fear.

 

Fear in preschoolers is a real thing.  As parents, it may seem a daunting task to help your child work through them. Keep these tips in mind the next time your child expresses a fear, and remember no matter how small it may seem to you, it is a big deal to your child!

 

 

Family Fun in Glendale, AZ ~ April

Arizona is a great place to raise a family. There is tons of family fun in Glendale, Arizona and the surrounding area! These are just a few of the many family fun activities going on in April!

Family Fun in Glendale, AZ - April

What: KidFest at Friendship Park

When: Saturday, April 9 at 10 AM1 PM

Where: Friendship Park

Avondale KidFest is a free event put on by the City of Avondale that showcases community groups dedicated to families and children while celebrating the value and importance of families as a key part of a healthy community.

What:West Valley Kids Expo
When: Sunday, April 17 at 1 PM4 PM
Where: American Sports Center~Avondale

Details: American Sports Center is hosting it’s First Annual West Valley Kids Expo on Sunday April 17th from 1pm-4pm. This is a FREE event for all ages. There will be roughly 25 vendors on site including Kona Ice, Lil’ Kickers, Jubeelieve Playland and many others. This is your opportunity to learn about various summer camps and activities. Stop by and say hi, we’ll love to see you!

Kids activities will include games and bounce houses.

Movies by Moolight

WhenFri, April 22, 6pm – 9pm
Where: Downtown Glendale Murphy Park (map)
Description: Spend a warm evening under the starts enjoying family friendly box office hits. Bring your blanket or lawn chair. Free pre-movie activities for kids start at 6 p.m.
WEE READERS @ WESTGATE
Event Type: Storytime and Reading
Date: Monday, April 18, 2016
Start Time: 10:30 AM
Library: Westgate

Description:
Have you heard? It’s the first and third! Every first and third Monday of the month, enjoy a free, interactive storytime program presented by the Glendale Public Library at Westgate. Stories, rhymes,…

Age(s): Children, Families

 What: TELL YOUR STORY: STORY STONES
When: Tuesday, April 12, 2016 @ 4PM
Where: Foothills Branch Library

Details: For ages 7-11. You won’t want to miss the chance to make your own set of story stones! Use your imagination to create your story stones, then use them with your friends and family to make up stories

 

What: Glendale Family Bike Ride

When: Sun, April 10, 8am – 12pm

Where: Sahuaro Ranch Park
Details: Annual Glendale Family Bike Ride starts at Sahuaro Ranch Park.

So, mark your calendars and make the time to get out and enjoy the family fun in Glendale, AZ this April!

HELP! My Child Will NOT Drink Water

 

As the weather warms up more and more of your child’s time will be spent outside being active! This means they will need more hydration, and will be asking more often for something to drink.

The healthiest drink choice for children is water. Juice is full of sugar, caffeinated beverages are unhealthy for children and can cause jitteriness, stomach problems and more. But… for some kids drinking water is a battle, and some just downright REFUSE it!

Do you have a child who just will not drink water?  Finding creative ways to get your child to drink water is key. Here are some ways that may work for your family!

Do you have a child who just will not drink water?  Finding creative ways to get your child to drink water is key. Here are some ways that may work for your family!

  • Buy Flavored Water– there are tons of great options out there when it comes to flavored water. Some are carbonated (which does not work well in sippy cups), but there are other options as well. Many come in bottled form as well as gallon.
  • Pack Drink Packets– These individual packets are great to take with you on trips. They also color the water to make it look more like kool aid or something else that is not water. In other words-you can totally trick your kids into thinking that it’s NOT water 😉
  • Dilute Juices– Start out using ¼ water and the rest juice, and then slowly change it to ½ water, then ¾ water. This is an easy way to get your child’s taste buds accustomed to water before making the full transition.
  • Start Them on Water to Begin With-Okay, you may not be able to go back in time and do this…. But remember this for future kids :)

With warmer weather coming up, NOW is the time to get your child used to drinking water. If you have had problems in the past, try out one or more of these ways and hopefully your kids will be drinking water soon! It is the healthier option and one that is also the most cost efficient.

Family Fun in Glendale, Arizona ~ March

Arizona is a great place to raise a family. There is tons of family fun in Glendale, Arizona and the surrounding area! These are just a few of the many family fun activities going on in March!

Family Fun in Glendale, Arizona - March

What: West Valley Fair & Music Festival

When: March 18-20

Where: University of Phoenix Stadium

Details: An action packed 3 days of State Fair caliber carnival rides, family attractions, your favorite fair foods, live music, local youth dance teams, commercial exhibitors, knocker balls, camels, pigs, horses, thrill shows & the list goes on! This is the biggest and best party in the West! You don’t want to miss it!! For more information check out the event on Facebook

What: SMART START 
When: Thursday, March 03, 2016 at 10:30 AM 
Where: Glendale Main Library

Details: Make the most of those preschool years! Sing and rhyme and read your way to Early Literacy. Songs, finger plays and more for you and your child. Geared to kids and caregivers from birth to age 5.

 

What: TELL YOUR STORY: LEGO MANIA 
When:  Monday, March 14, 2016@ 4:00 PM 
Where: Foothills Branch Library

Details: Come and build Lego masterpieces with us! Work together in groups or alone to make a Lego creation. Share the story of your creation with one another. For ages 3-12. No registration.

Age(s): Pre-Teens, Children

Other:

This project is supported by the Arizona State Library, Archives & Public Records, a division of the Secretary of State, with federal funds from the Institute of Museum and Library Services.

What: Out West Balloon Fest & Fun Run

When: March 4March 6

Where: University of Phoenix Stadium
Details: Come to the 2nd Annual Out West Balloon Fest & Fun Run, featuring the G1GABLAST Fun Run benefiting Cox Charities. This family fun event has something for everyone including over 50 hot air balloons competing for the AZ State Championship! We have live music, kids zone, food and beverage, balloon rides and more. Bring the whole family out to make memories that will last a lifetime! Check out more details on Facebook Event

 

So, mark your calendars and make the time to get out and enjoy the family fun in Glendale, AZ this March!

The Why and How of Responsive Parenting

Responsive parenting is becoming more and more popular. And for good reason! Studies have shown responsive parenting has a long lasting affect on children.

The Why and How of Responsive Parenting

What is Responsive Parenting?

Responsive parenting is the way a parent responds to and interacts with their child. A parent’s reaction is vital and contains wide range benefits for the child. A responsive parent responds to a child’s emotional, physical and cognitive needs regularly. This leads to better cognitive and psychosocial development as well as protection from disease and mortality. Studies have found that enhancing a parent’s responsiveness will result in better overall child health and development.

How Can I Be a Responsive Parent?

Many parents are responsive naturally. However, if a parent was raised with authoritative or uninvolved parents they may not understand HOW to be responsive. Parents who tend to be responsive may want to do so more often, or grow as a parent. Here are a few ways parents can be more responsive.

  • Be predictable. Children thrive on predictability. Respond to your child’s cries, yells and calls. Let them know that when they need you, you will be there.
  • Show empathy. Ask yourself what your child may be thinking, or what the situation looks like from your child’s view. Watch for cues. Don’t make assumptions.
  • Be available emotionally. Talk to your child about sadness when you are crying. Smile when you are happy. Describe feelings on a regular basis. In addition, don’t withdraw emotion when a child misbehaves or acts out.
  • Have clear boundaries. Children need boundaries in order to feel safe and loved. Set boundaries for your child and discuss them on a regular basis. These boundaries can be in effect for the whole family. For example, we don’t hit, we show respect, etc. If a child crosses a boundary you must respond.
  • Don’t worry about spoiling! Children need to feel secure. This comes from holding, touching, wearing (babies), playing, cuddling, and rocking. A more secure child will be more independent later. By making your child feel more secure your interaction with them will become richer and deeper.

Why Responsive Parenting?

Studies have found that children raised by responsive parents show more empathy, have better emotional regulation and more advanced reasoning skills. In some cases they may even test with higher IQs.  Responsive parents make their children feel safe. This means they are overall less stressed and more relaxed.

 

Responsive parenting is becoming more popular for a reason. It works! Consider looking more into becoming a responsive parent today.

Family Fun in Glendale, Arizona ~ February

Arizona  is a great place to raise a family. There is tons of family fun in Glendale, Arizona and the surrounding area! These are just a few of the many family fun activities  going on in February!

Family Fun in Glendale Arizona-February

Smart Start

Age Group(s): Children, Families
Date: 2/4/2016
Start Time: 10:30 AM

Description:
 Make the most of those preschool years! Sing and rhyme and read your way to Early Literacy. Songs, fingerplays and more for you and your child. Geared to kids and caregivers from birth to age 5.

Library: Glendale Main Library
Location: Main Storytime Room

 Chocolate Festival  

Visitors will delight in the nearly 40 chocolate purveyors, featuring confections such as chocolate-covered strawberries, chocolate-drizzled kettle corn, chocolatecovered nuts, berry chocolate kabobs, fudge popsicles, chocolate-covered cheesecake and bananas, fried Twinkies and fried Snickers dipped in chocolate and much more, all along with free admission. The Chocolate Affaire is presented by Arizona’s famous candy makers, Cerreta Candy Company. The candy factory will offer tours all weekend and visitors can expect to see some special, giant-sized chocolate creations at the factory.

Families with children will enjoy a variety of activities, including face-painting, carnival rides, a rock-climbing wall and more.

Event hours are Friday 5 – 10 p.m., Saturday 10 a.m. – 10 p.m. and Sunday noon – 5 p.m. The event is located in the heart of Historic Downtown Glendale, in Murphy Park, located at 58th and Glendale avenues.

For more detailed information about the event visit their Chocolate Affaire Page!

Buckeye Air Fair

WhenSat, February 6, 9am – 3pm
Where: Buckeye Municipal, 3000 S Palo Verde Rd, Buckeye, AZ 85326
Description: Buckeye Air Fair FREE ADMISSION! • Aircraft Displays • R/C Aircraft Demonstrations • Lauridsen Aviation Museum • Arizona SciTech Festival • Live Entertainment • Demonstrations by Buckeye Police & Fire • Kids Zone, Food, Vendors & more!
More Information: http://www.buckeyeairfair.com/

STORYTIME @ THE TEAGUE
Event Type: Storytime and Reading
Date: Wednesday, February 10, 2016
Start Time: 10:30 AM
Library: Velma Teague Branch Library

Description: A thirty-minute program geared to children 3 to 6 years old. Programs include stories, songs, finger-plays and short movies. No registration is required.

Age(s): Children, Preschoolers

VALENTINE DROP-IN CRAFT!
Event Type: Youth
Date: Wednesday, February 10, 2016
Start Time: 2:00 PM
Library: Velma Teague Branch Library

Description: Drop by the library and create a Heart Bouquet or an adorable Love Bug to keep or to give as a gift to your special Valentine! Crafters younger than 6 years old will need an adult helper.

Age(s): Children

Other: Registration is not required. Visit or call the youth desk at 623-930-3437 for more information
THE LION, THE WITCH AND THE WARDROBE
Event Type: Youth
Date: Wednesday, February 10, 2016
Start Time: 3:30 PM
Library: Glendale Main Library

Description: Arizona Broadway Theater for Young Audiences returns to the Glendale Main Library with a free performance of this timeless children’s classic.

Surprise Second Sundays in the Park

When: Sun, February 14, 2pm – 4pm
Where: Surprise Community Park, 15953 N. Bullard Ave, Surprise (map)
Description: SECOND SUNDAYS IN THE PARK Enjoy an afternoon at the park with live musical entertainment the second Sunday of each month. This FREE family event is fun for all ages!
Dates: February 14
Time: 2 – 4pm
More Information: Call 623.222.2000 http://www.surpriseaz.gov/index.aspx?NID=491

PAWS TO READ
Event Type: Storytime and Reading
Date: Monday, February 22, 2016
Start Time: 4:00 PM
Library: Velma Teague Branch Library

Description: Reserve a fifteen-minute reading session with Hailey the Golden Retriever! Hailey is an official therapy dog, certified through Therapy Dogs International. She loves books and stories of all kinds and…

Age(s): Children

Other: Call 623-930-3437, or stop by the Velma Teague Youth desk to sign up.
So, mark your calenders and make the time to get out and enjoy the family fun in Glendale, AZ this February!

25 Things Your Child Needs to Hear You Say

Children are sponges. We all know that. They watch us. And by watching us, they learn how to interact with others, what’s good, what’s bad, how to act, and much more.

There is another thing our children soak up though that goes much deeper than just watching us. It’s hearing the words that we say. The truth of the matter is once our children leave our care, whether it’s to go to school, with a friend, or into adulthood, the only thing they have left of us with them is the memories we make. Many of these memories are centered on the words that we say.

25 Things Your Child Needs to Hear You Say

  1. I love you
  2. What do you think?
  3. I’ve got your back.
  4. I am proud of you.
  5. If you are ever in trouble, I will be there for you.
  6. I Will Always Want to Cuddle With You
  7. I love spending time with you
  8. You are beautiful
  9. Words hurt
  10. I am sorry
  11. You are a blessing
  12. I forgive you
  13. Noone is perfect
  14. I love spending time with you
  15. I’m listening
  16. Yes
  17. I had the same problem when I was your age
  18. I was wrong
  19. No
  20. I love watching you play
  21. I love it when you…..
  22. You did that very well
  23. That was a great job!
  24. Thank you
  25. You can do this!

 

Now, we are not going to elaborate outside of the phrase, because everyones story will be different. Everyones child is different. So, yes the phrases are here, but words go beyond those phrases. Put the words into action. Elaborate and tell WHY you love your child, WHY they are beautiful and HOW they make you smile.

Takes these phrases and run with them. Speak them to your children. Discuss them. Remember them.

You won’t regret it!

 


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